☽ Intern
Making friends at work is like making a cake.
Each work environment requires a different approach, like how each type of cake requires a different approach. The first step is probably figuring out what type of cake, and flavour of cake is your workplace.
The different ingredients are you and your co-workers. Some ingredients may work well together to make a delicious cake, some ingredients don't. That is why, there is a recipe, so you know what ingredients to put together, how, and at what times to do that. At work, the principle is the same.
There is something called workplace etiquette, and it's like an invisible recipe. Depending on what your co-worker is like, there are certain things you can say (at certain times) or not in order for you guys to have a "working" relationship that both of you are comfortable with.
Some ingredients mix well together initially, like flour and egg, and some do not, like eggs and strawberries. But, the great thing about baking cakes though is that the baker doesn't have to just mix two ingredients together and hope for the best, they can get creative with mixing methods and adding other ingredients into the mix too. With workplace friends, it is similar.
Maybe you and your co-worker don't go that well together. But if a third person is there, it might increase your chances of getting closer. Maybe you and your co-worker just need to find a more suitable method to talk to each other, or just more time, or a different environment altogether, like at a workplace BBQ. In reality, it's all about experimenting with different circumstances and seeing how things work. The recipe is there, but the recipe can always be changed. Of course, the cake will change as well, but maybe it'll taste better than before.
So yeah, strawberries and eggs might not go together as they are. But if you experiment a little bit, maybe you'll find an uncanny way where they might. Making strawberries into jam, then mixing it with flour and egg might be a better style.
Of course, there are cases where two ingredients just can't find a way to mix and mingle, no matter how much one tries. This is fine, as long as both of them respect each other's distance and be polite enough. Like, if you have a cake but the flour and egg are together, and the strawberry is only a topping.
And there are also cases where one ingredient just goes so bad with the rest of the bunch that it's time to throw it out, like a rotten strawberry, or expired milk.
But anyways,
My point is, mingling with co-workers is a dance between contrasting personalities, finding the right environment, trying out new things, and time. Lots and lots of time.
Maybe some work environments have trickier cake recipes, then that requires more time and patience. But maybe some work environments are like cake mix, and requires not a lot of time. You will only know for sure if you wanna stay there once you try out the workplace for yourself.
One thing's for sure though, all the ingredients depend on each other to hold up their end of the bargain so that the cake tastes good. If they can all do their part and get along well, then it's a piece of cake. (*pun intended)
It's been a month since I started my first job and I'm still learning how workplace relationships is not like making school friends. Sometimes it's lonely, especially because I can't exactly disclose too much information about myself to people I barely know, but hopefully I'll be able to find a way to de-compress my feelings successfully in the future. It's okay if I feel lonely sometimes, just as long as I'm treated with respect and I feel comfortable in the workplace. If there comes a time where I don't feel comfortable there anymore, then I will quit.
Some of my co-workers are quite older than me, and some are closer to my age. Some have complementing personalities to mine, and some do not. I'm still finding out how to act differently with each co-worker so that we can both exist harmoniously in the work environment. Anyways, even if my relationship with each of my co-workers won't be a full-on friendship, hopefully, I can find a comfortable way to work with each of them.
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While listening to this song:
You could look at.....your office-space.
You could be with.....your co-workers, or by yourself.
You could do something.....think about how you relate to each of your co-workers. Why do you think being co-workers doesn't equal being 'friends'? If two co-workers do become friends, how do you think that is different from making friends at other places, like school?
You could eat or drink.....the clients at my workplace seem to really like Black Forest Cake and I think it's pretty good too.
You could remember that.....respect and trust are such important values to have in the workplace. If you feel like someone at your work doesn't give both of these to you, then maybe consider talking to them, or in extreme cases, leaving. If you're fine with the relationships you have at work, then that's great--but if you aren't, then remember, you don't have to stay.
Artist: OKDAL
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